Awkward Meetings

Feeling insecure about the boyfriend after a while, I decided to possibly look for someone new.
I started talking to this guy, Ben*. I met him on Chemistry.com. Looking at his profile pic he was rather attractive and after texting back and forth for a while he seemed nice and we decided to meet. We decided to meet at the mall, head to dinner, and go see Transformers 3.

I had to try and cram in Transformers 2 before I headed out since I hadn't watched it yet and headed out immediately afterward (even after having to skim through a few parts to watch it all). I headed over to meet Ben and waited through about 15 minutes of some man hacking up a lung and some kid playing a neighing horse sound before he finally showed up.

He wasn't as attractive as I had hoped. He was much shorter than his profile said (still taller than me) and he was a bit chunky. Not that chunky is bad, just not what I expected. Talking with him in person was rather awkward and conversations didn't really flow well. We walked around for longer than expected and didn't have time for a real dinner other than Subway. After food we went straight to the movie.

He payed for my ticket after much insisting. Halfway through the movie he decides to put his arm around me. I was nice and let him do it. Thankfully, he didn't try to hold my hand. I could not get comfortable with his arm around me at all. It sucked. He drove me home afterward and when we pulled in my driveway I leaned over and gave him a hug. I think he was expecting a kiss and I felt slightly awkward after pulling away.

He wanted me to come see fireworks with him but I was so afraid if I did go he would totally try to put the moves on me. That was not how I wanted to spend my last weekend at home.

He sent me a text Sunday morning (July 3rd).

Good morning. Wish this day was as beautiful as you.

Ugh. I still don't know how to feel other than weirded out. That would be sweet if we were really dating, but not after just one date. That's really awkward.

I haven't texted him since. Thankfully, he hasn't texted me either.

Man, why do I attract awkward men? I should probably stop looking for guys online. I'm starting to realize why they're left with looking for women online...

YSA Conference

So I have lots and lots to update about, but I'll just start off with the YSA Conference.

Tons of fun! And I really enjoyed the lessons/workshops we had.

I met some really awesome guys during the Speed Dating activity, but I couldn't ever find them afterward and obviously I didn't make a big enough impression on them for them to find me. Lame. :(

I did meet one really super awesome guy, too bad he was WAY more into my sister than me. Also lame.

I was very frustrated with my friend Sam*. I used to think she was an extrovert until this conference. She didn't want to randomly talk with people or go out of her way to meet new people. She clung to me and my sister for the majority of the conference and always wanted to leave early. She was such a downer and I feel like I could've met more people if I hadn't had to deal with her. It was still nice getting to catch up with her.

I have some serious confusion about another guy though. Dane* goes to school at my university. I'm not really best friends with him or anything and have barely spent time with him in the past. He's had a girlfriend for so long so I never really pushed the idea of hanging out or even dating him while I was single. He's super nice though and very down to earth and not overly conservative. I love talking with him when I get the chance.
Well, at the conference I saw him a few times and he really just said hi and asked how I was. Apparently though, he kept running into my sister. It seemed like every time he saw her he was telling her to tell me that he missed me and what-not. It just seemed like he was more zealous about me when talking to someone else, than to me. What does this mean though? Does he secretly like my sister and that's the connection he has to attempt to talk to her? Or is really interested in me and too nervous to show it? Or does he really not care and just wants to be nice? Ugh, boys.




P.S. Remember Jessica from this post? I forgot to update sooner about her, but the week after that dinner, she showed up at our ward with a guy.Turns out the guy was her boyfriend. Um... wat? Trying to flirt hardcore with other boys to really have a boyfriend. Ok, I know, I have a boyfriend, too, but I'm trying THAT hard to flirt.

Worst Near-Dating Experience

I've been reading a lot of Confessions from a Mormon Bachelor Pad and started thinking about bad dates. I remembered this guy that I had completely forgotten about. Literally, I forgot all about him. I guess it was so horrific I've tried my best to block the entire situation from my mind.



So I went through this phase last year of trying to find LDS guys through eHarmony. Probably one of the worst things EVER. I found this guy, we'll call him Joe, who seemed decent. Taking advantage of the free eHarmony weekend I contacted him and we sent some emails back and forth.

The first email he sent me was just him talking about how he asks "extreme" questions to find out if he clicks with someone. Some of the questions were as follows:

"What would you do if a bear came up to you and we were together in the forest?
If Mickey Mouse got sick and they couldn't find a cure, would they put him in suspended animation?
If you were to setup a dinner before I showed up, what would you cook?
If evolution really works, then how come mother's only have two arms?
If you could change something about yourself, what would it be & why?
Do you know the muffin man?"

They were cute and kind of funny so I continued. I replied to his answers and asked some of my own. The answers I got back were good and to me seemed like a great guy, but then he went on this weird rambling rant I could barely follow. It made just about as much sense as a fat kid eating a salad.

He asked some more questions and this is literally the end of the email:

"What is your decorating style?
What is your favorite household chore? Least?
How much gaming do you actually do?
Are a clean freak, a messy person? Or somewhere in between?

Catch you later hun. "

Ugh. "Hun". Cute term of endearment... if you plan to stay in the friend zone. I've just had too many close guy friends call me "hun" to ever really associatie it with an actual love interest.
But ugh... I continued...

I asked some more questions and here was the beginning of his reply:

"GIRL, you totally involuntarily made my day. hahahahaha.... you get to laugh at this email because you TOTALLY asked the exact questions scam artists and identity thief's ask! hahahaaaa.... I know you sincerely didn't try to, but it still kind of happened. I don't think i've had this much fun filling out an email like this in a long time. I think the main thing that made it so fun was knowing the innocence of your attempt and what you were really driving at. oyyyyyyyyyyyyyy............................... You should totally text me"

And gave me his number. This email gets worse. He continued to make fun of me for my innocent mistake of asking him "scam artist" questions. I felt kind of humiliated.
Here's what pretty much ruined any chance he had of seriously dating me. The question in parenthesis was one of my questions to him. His reply:

"(If you had a son, would you let him play with barbies if he wanted to? Likewise, would you let your daughter play football if she wanted to?)

Well hopefully my daughter doesn't have testosterone pumping through her veins when she's playing it. And if I found my son playing with barbie dolls, he better be ripping the heads off, other wise I'll IMMEDIATELY get him into counseling instead of making the mistake many foolish parents now days make that contributes to feminism which ultimately plants seeds for gayism. Even if that wasn't the case, it could still get other kids my boys age to think of him as being gay (or as they say a "sissy") and then my son would have to deal with rejection which leads to ALL kinds of social problems which leads to emotional and mental problems. There's parent manuals on what to do in case of an unusual situation like that. I wouldn't care if my son played with barbie dolls, just as long as he responded to it in a normal male manner. If he plays with girls, and acts a little fruity, that's because well..... he's in front of a girl. I guess that would be normal."

Um... What? Really? "Gayism"? Lord. Do I have to explain what's so terrible about all this? Ugh. I just really hate terrible opinionated people like this.

I can't help but wonder what the hell I was thinking that I would even entertain the idea of texting him after this, but I did...

We texted for a while and he ended up calling me a couple of times. Our conversations were always akward. They were generally about him and he would try to make me laugh with akward jokes that really weren't so funny but I'd force myself to laugh sometimes out of pity.
After a while I just stopped texting him hoping he'd get the picture that I just didn't want anything to do with him. He eventually stopped texting and I didn't hear from him for a while. I'd literally forgotten about him when he texted me around Christmas time about how he was going to send me a gift. It was weird and akward and I never replied.

I wonder what he's doing now....

Ok not really. Lol